Searching the net for an old article on relationships i came across this question which was asked a lot of times in many forums. What really interested me were the comments that followed the article. Its like igniting a spark and soon the jungle is on fire. On topic its quite a debatable question isn’t it. Its something that cant be judged without being in an relationship. Many are undecided and leave it to the time that it actually happens to decide whether it worked for the relationship or not. If you do a quick search on the net for the above question, you will find interesting replies.

sex is the best part of a relationship!

No.You can get only mental/physical satisfaction through sex.Nothing more than that.Relationship is beyond sex.

In reality, in the real world of honesty and truth, sex is a very important part of a relationship. Prove me wrong on that one.

Sex is a very important part in a relationship as it allows the couple to become more open and comfortable around on another

Sex is something that you and your ”lover” can enjoy together not something that is very important.

Sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ”real” relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. It’s pretty darn important for procreation - obvious exceptions being infertility or disability. I helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.

Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime.

And don’t ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain.

I would say yes, sex and sexual issue are very important. Crucial even. If sex was unimportant then cheating would also be considered unimportant. After sex, both partners’ brains release chemicals that make then feel happy and most importantly connected and in love. The effect is far stronger for women. Regular sex bonds a couple together. Needless to say this is far from the only thing bonding a couple. Any physical affection, cuddling, kisses, hugs, holding hands can have this effect as well as the connection from the shared experiences, conversations, similar interests etc. Sex will not always make or break a relationship but a terrible sex life (absent, violent, whatever) or a cheating partner can break a relationship. Sex is more important to some people than others. Some people prefer frequent sex, some people are once a week or even less often. These differences can cause problems. The key is compromise, sometimes you will be having sex that you aren’t fully in the mood for, sometimes you will want and go without, as long as one of you isn’t always giving way to the needs of the other you can work it out. Sex isn’t all there is to a great relationship but it is an important part.

In these days of cheap pornography and sexual perversion we are not made to realize the higher aspects of sex. It is reduced to a method of satisfying one’s physical drive rather than a deep spiritual and emotional bonding. Does heartfelt sex reflect love and tenderness? Yes it does. If you observe the mating of two sea anemone’s you cant help but realize the sanctity and sensitivity that they have for each other. It is a very impressive and beautiful sight. However we human beings, who are supposed to be evolved creatures, have largely forgotten the art and tender expression of sex.

Many consider sex as the most intimate aspect of a relationship. Many are in a relationship just for that. Sex can give pleasure and sex can break hearts. Sex can be really great for the relationship but it all depends on the individuals in the relationship. The intimate bond that it creates with your partner would surely have a long lasting effect on the relationship. But sex for fun doesn’t really result in an intimate and loving relationship.

People who think sex is the best part of relationship have probably not known how to enjoy other important aspects of the relationship. Such people should not be in a serious relationship. They more likely to cause hurt to their partner. And then there are those who believe sex is strictly a part of marriage. That leaves us to wonder if sex is strictly just a part of marriage then what is marriage? a license to have sex?

A successful relationship is like a mixed curry. Love, understanding, respect form the main ingredients. Throw in a bit of sex to spice up the taste!

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